Things had gotten so bad that Phillip moved 1200 miles away, hoping that putting some distance between him and Trina would end the craziness that had plagued his life. He had tried everything. He’s a full-grown man, but even his parents got involved to try and help him. They liked Trina a lot and didn’t want to see her hurting in the way that the breakup with Phillip had caused. He hadn’t been unfaithful to Trina, and the thought of possibly proposing to her had crossed his mind once or twice, but jealousy and her paranoia about his faithfulness became a prison. Once he realized that it wasn’t within his power to relieve her fears in any way, he gave up completely and didn’t want to spend another moment in the relationship.
From the outside looking in, no one would have suspected that Trina was in such internal turmoil. She was attractive, kindhearted, intelligent, and very successful in the workplace. There was no question that she understood what it means to be committed to something, and she could be counted on to get things done, but nothing satisfied her insatiable need to receive from a man something no human can supply.
Phillip managed to keep it pretty quiet about his move, and a few weeks later, when Trina found out that he had left town, she was relieved at first. Even she was exhausted by her own obsessive antics. She could finally concentrate on her career and stop trying to hawk Phillip’s every move, but this reprieve didn’t last long. A mutual friend let it slip and inadvertently mentioned the city where Phillip had moved. She tried fighting the urge, but she remembered he had a cousin in that city and tracked down his address.
Trina had become very good at lying. She had to be in order to get away with some of things she did to monitor Phillip’s every move. Her friends at work were all under the impression that she and Phillip were engaged and had become concerned at how sad she seemed sometimes. During a conversation, one of her work-friends tried to offer consolation. Trina lied and told her Phillip’s job had given him an ultimatum and he had to move to a different state. Her co-worker then mentioned that their company had a larger office in the city where Phillip had moved. Trina put in for a transfer, and the next thing you know, she was packing up her apartment, preparing to move.
James 1:8 tells us that a double-minded person is unstable in all their ways. This is what a spirit of obsession does, it makes our thoughts, feelings, and actions unstable. A stable-minded person would never consider packing up their lives on a whim to track down someone, especially if this ‘someone’ was so desperate to get away from them that he moved over a thousand miles to do it.
She had friends, but no one close, and she kept it that way. She didn’t want anyone telling her how crazy her tendencies towards Phillip were, because she knew deep down that she was out of control. Phillip had tried to break up with Trina more than once. He tried putting the blame on himself, telling her that it was him and not her, and that he just wasn’t ready for the kind of relationship she wanted. She had always managed to get back in his good graces, but something was different the last time. She could feel it, and she had never experienced that kind of pain. The emotional upheaval in her soul was so tormenting she could hardly sit still.
She had given Phillip all that she had to give, but he was never meant to be her destiny partner. If someone rejects the best of you, it is not because you are not enough, it is because they can’t recognize your best. This isn’t a bad thing for you or them. It simply means that neither of you are meant for each other. Trying to hang on to something or someone that isn’t meant for you is catastrophic on so many levels. It conveys to heaven and everything beneath it that you don’t have faith you are deserving of God’s best, and you don’t have faith that God will give it to you.
It is clear that Trina’s obsession is running her life. She hasn’t allowed Jesus Christ to take the wheel. Her heart’s motivation is the fear of being alone, and because of this fear she has tried to make Phillip her everything. It is a role he would never be equipped to handle—no human can. Trying to make anything our everything is idolatry. It is a sin before God. It is bowing to something or someone other than our Heavenly Father, because we think this thing has the power to make us whole or make us more than what God has created us to be.
Romans 14:7-8 (NKJV) say, “For none of us lives to himself, and no one dies to himself. For if we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. Therefore, whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s.” We don’t belong to ourselves; we belong to God. Many of us have been taught that we should give our hearts away, but we can’t give away something that isn’t ours. God is our Everything, and our hearts belong to Him. We are complete in Jesus Christ, and when we’re so emotionally distraught that we think we can’t live or function beautifully without a person, we’re not living in love, but operating from the devil’s play book. We must change this so that we can capture our destinies.
God said in Isaiah 45:5(NKJV), “I am the LORD, and there is no other; there is no God besides Me.” His commandment in Exodus 20:3(NLT) tells us “You shall have no other gods before Me.” And Jesus Christ tells us in Matthew 22:27 to love the Lord our God with all our minds, hearts, souls, and strength. God’s Word is clear. Our commitment to Him must be first. When it is, He will help us to be strengthened spiritually so that we never feel the need to receive from a human being only something God can provide. Always remember that you’re God’s best not because of what you’ve done, but because of what He’s done through Jesus Christ. Let’s pray our strength in Him, because when we make Him our priority, He’ll strategically position us to meet the right person at the right time.■
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“You Are God’s Best” written for Crazynlove.com ©2019. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord!