“ But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.” Romans 5:8(NLT)
Have you met a person that just makes your heart sing? You can’t explain it, but you know there’s something incredibly soulful about this individual, and you feel a deep connection. Many of us are so excited that we latch on pretty quickly and do so without testing the waters. We depend on our hearts for permission because that’s what most of us have been taught to do. People tell us the heart wants what the heart wants. They say the heart will not lie. Things like this sound very romantic and give us permission to lose ourselves in the swoons of love, and dare I say, lust; but when it comes to making sound relationship-decisions, depending on our hearts is not always smart.
This may be surprising to hear, but the person who makes our soul sing is not necessarily our soul-mate. If we’re not able to hear, digest, and apply this truth, we can go terribly wrong. Many people have had to learn this lesson the hard way. We put our all into relationships with the persons we’re ga-ga over, and no matter what we do, it’s not enough. No matter how much we love them, they’re not able to give us a quality love back, and things don’t work out. Things don’t work out because this isn’t the person we’re destined to be with, and for many of us, it is a very challenging reality to accept.
The absence of hearing this person’s voice, not receiving those midnight texts or phone calls, and not having them next to us when we feel the loneliest are difficult moments. They are also very tempting moments, because the urge to pick up the phone and reach out can be hard to resist but resist you must. God has destined us according to His purpose. If we think He’s not interested in our choice regarding the most significant relationship of our lives, we’re wrong. He cares, and He has promised to take care of all our needs. The Apostle Paul said in Philippians 4:19(NLT), “And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.”
God wants every person to experience the security of having our worth and feelings validated by the person He has ordained to do it. There is absolutely no need to try and hang on to someone who isn’t willing or capable of appreciating the jewel that is ‘YOU’. It isn’t an ego trip, for we know the Lord has disdain for arrogance. It’s about recognizing that you mean so much to God. He gave His only begotten Son as ransom for your sins. You owe it to Him to partner with someone who aids your walk in Christ and not hinders it.
One of the reasons it is difficult to let go of a relationship that is past its expiration date is because we haven’t developed our faith regarding the wonderful future God has planned for us. We haven’t learned that relationships that have ended prepare us for the next chapter in our spiritual journey. Don’t resist your wonderful future by looking back. You’ll lose momentum and shift from faith to fear. Fight the urge to go back to something that no longer serves you well. Recognize that the true foundation of a quality relationship is built on Christ. This means both partners understand each other’s worth, and they are truly vested in the commitment and interactions that honestly and wholeheartedly secure their love for one another. God greatly desires this for us, and we’ll do ourselves a great injustice if we don’t trust Him to make it a reality in our lives.■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Fighting the Urge to Pick up the Phone” written for Crazynlove.com ©2019. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord!